Traveling Without Your Significant Other
I struggled about writing this post, sort of wondering if I would be able to articulate my ideas the way I wanted to. Well here goes nothing-
I am super excited to go to London and everyone that I tell is really excited for me. Of course it is a natural question to ask if I am going with my boyfriend, whom I have traveled with the most over the last three years. However, I have noticed that if I tell someone right up front that I am going with a friend, they always get around to saying, “So, your boyfriend isn’t going with you? How come he isn’t going? How does he feel about this?”
There is a part of me that feels this is just natural curiosity, and another part of me that feels like people are asking because they feel it is weird or unnatural. Here is my take on it:
I wanted to go to London and I wanted to go over spring break. My boyfriend, bless his heart, did not feel the wanderlust push to go right now, especially having lived there for a few years in his youth- been there, done that. He is in a place where he really needs to focus on his business, which is completely understandable and I respect that. I love him so much, and I love being able to travel with him, but if he can’t go somewhere, I do not take this to mean that I cannot go.
I have often heard before that I am so lucky to have a boyfriend who loves to travel, and I am very lucky in that sense. However, just because my boyfriend does not want to go somewhere, does not mean I will not go there, it means that I will grab a friend! That is just how I operate. You don’t need a significant other to travel with, and some of my best trips have been with friends (and not because I was single at the time-I wasn’t).
I understand that there are different stroke for different folks, I am just saying that I cannot buy into the idea that if I really want to see the world, and my significant other cannot accompany me that I can’t go. Once upon a time I had a boyfriend that never could or wanted to travel, so I went on trips with friends. I am no longer with that person, and if I had missed out on all those travel opportunities because my boyfriend did not want to go or did not have enough money, I would have never been to Paris, Los Angeles, New Orleans, the list goes on.
I also find that girls trips can be a really great bonding experience, and was blessed with a girlfriend who is unafraid to travel and explore new lands without her man! We had an amazing girls weekend in San Fransisco last year, and sometimes you just can’t shop all day on a trip, and then order room service and watch Pretty Woman unless you are with your girlfriends! We are at a time in our adulthood where slowly your adult friendships become less close, people get married, there is a lot of double dating happening, which is great but there is nothing like a trip to really bond with a friend!
I am lucky enough to have a boyfriend that completely understands this about me- this lion-hear-me-roar independence that is intertwined with my wanderlust. He is very supportive of my trip to London, and loves my travel companion Joey just as much as I do! The other incredibly great thing about this trip is that I get to reunite with one of my all time favorite traveling buddies who is definitely my travel soul mate. We travel in exactly the same way: obsessively tourist-like and incredibly detailed in planning, while being budget-friendly. I have missed traveling with him- some of my best trips were with Joey, and I could not be more excited to take on this European adventure with someone just as nerdy and excited as I am!
I guess what I am trying to say is- I am traveling without my significant other, and we are both fine with it! I have done it before and I will do it again! And ladies, if the opportunity presents itself, don’t be afraid to travel without your man, just think about it at least! You could be missing out on the trip of a lifetime!